Dear Jane,
How do you commit to yourself as steadfastly as you commit to others?
When we are more committed to others’ well-being or happiness than to our own, we are suffering from low self-worth. Often, people who overcommit to others feel ashamed to even have needs or wants, accusing themselves of selfishness at every turn.
However, the [...]
Dear Jane,
Why can’t I be myself? I’m always afraid that I’m not good enough, that I have to cater to others first, that nothing I feel, do, or believe measures up. I don’t think it comes from how others see me; it comes from inside me, and I can’t figure out why.
Even if it comes [...]
Dear Jane,
Why do I feel so bogged down and sooo wrapped up with myself that it has become a physical thing? I feel like I have “cancer of the heart.” When will this sad, unrelenting “Why me? It’s not fair. I don’t deserve a divorce” mindset ever go away?
First of all, you are asking yourself [...]
Dear Jane,
How can I figure out whether I am doing what makes me happy? What are some of the symptoms of unhappiness, or must I wait for a life-threatening situation?
I wrote Enough Is Enough! to help others avoid having to go through a life-threatening situation in order to wake up to your spirit’s calling.
If [...]
Dear Jane,
I always break my New Year’s resolutions. What can I do differently this year?
This is the time of year when we tend to do two things:
1. We stand in front of a mirror and reprimand ourselves for all our bad habits.
2. We promise that “we shall overcome” these same bad habits beginning January 1.
And [...]
Dear Jane,
What is my life aim? My birth date: 2/14/76, time 05:10 p.m.
It seems as though you are looking for an astrological or numerological reading. Before I suggest where to get help with this, I will let you know how I approach this very important spiritual quest.
When I help people explore their life purpose(s), I [...]
Dear Jane,
How can I bring back more humor and laughter into my life. I listen to my beautiful children laughing and having fun and long for this free spirit.
Maybe it would be helpful for you to find out when your joy seems to have “disappeared.”
1. What used to make you laugh or feel joy?
2. When did you [...]
Dear Jane,
I wonder if it is possible to be happy, to live one`s inspiring life when the dear people around you suffer. You can see the way out if you were in their place, but you can`t live their life.
It is even more important to foster your own happiness and to live an inspired life [...]
Dear Jane,
How do you let go of a love you know is not good for you?
Being in love with the “wrong” person is the seed of so many poems, novels, films, plays—not to mention the core of much of our pain and longing. While I don’t know your particular situation, I can say that willing [...]
Dear Jane,
How can I overcome my fear of public speaking?
Did you know that a survey showed that Americans fear public speaking more than they fear death? Since people who are afraid to speak in public believe they may die from stage fright, it’s a double whammy.
So first, take comfort in knowing you share a [...]
