Dear Jane, I just broke up with my long-time boyfriend and can’t seem to find any energy for life. How long will it take before I can look forward to enjoying life again? No matter what the reason for a breakup—the relationship was stale; you outgrew it; it was abusive in some way; you were [...]
» Read MoreDear Jane, Everyone talks about thriving. How do I know if I’m thriving? What’s the difference between surviving and thriving? In both surviving and thriving, we may struggle at times, feel fear of failure or rejection, or worry that we are not worthy of what we long for. So the distinction between surviving and thriving [...]
» Read MoreTo read my English usage blogs, visit Grammarbook.com. Dear Jane, I want to make some New Year’s resolutions but I don’t want to set myself up for failure, which I’ve done in the past. How can I make sure that I succeed this time? Most of us use New Year’s resolutions as a way to [...]
» Read MoreThis is one of those times that I wish I were a poet—even just a decent one—because New Orleans deserves to be described with more powerful imagery than I can offer. I took the six-day trip not knowing what to expect. I had never been to the city or even to the south. Whenever I [...]
» Read MoreDear Jane, My teenaged son started playing Lacrosse last year but quit mid-season. This year he took up diving but wants to quit that too. I’m afraid he’s going to fail in life if he doesn’t follow through on his commitments. My wife says my son’s self-esteem is suffering because I’m too hard on him. [...]
» Read MoreDear Jane, I get lost in a crowd, like I’m invisible. I pretend not to care and I know I make things worse by dressing in drab clothes. But I feel like I don’t matter to anyone. What can I do short of screaming, “Here I am! Pay attention to me!” Being ignored—not feeling special [...]
» Read MoreDear Jane, I was numb in my marriage for over ten years before starting therapy. Now I recognize that I have been angry and resentful towards my wife and want a divorce. I was ready to tell her this the other night after dinner. But we were watching Dr. Phil and he told a woman [...]
» Read MoreDear Jane, My ex-husband and I divorced after sixteen years of marriage. It wasn’t an awful marriage but I never really loved him. He knew this although we never really talked about it. When he started to drink a few years after our daughter was born, I really felt even more distant from him. We [...]
» Read MoreDear Jane, Although I am a loyal, caring person in relationship, I can hardly find a bird of the same feathers to flock with. What can I do besides pray? Sometimes we choose our relationships for reasons we’re not aware of consciously. For example, do you find that you have chosen a partner who is [...]
» Read MoreDear Jane, How can I forgive myself and my husband’s family when our faults contributed to the death of my son (to suicide)? I was fearful that my son would commit suicide. Because of this, in your view, did I get what I thought? (I guess I already know the answer, which is yes, but [...]
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