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Dear Jane,
How can I stop wasting my time on Internet romances that fizzle out? What really makes a romance blossom into a long-term commitment?
With Internet dating, you have more opportunities than ever to meet potential partners, which also means you have to be more discerning so that [...]
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Dear Jane,
What is the difference between empowering and enabling someone?
I’ve struggled with this in my own life. I want to be compassionate, but how can I know whether I am helping or when I am supporting someone in believing they’re helpless? How do I combine a belief that [...]
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This is a modified version of a talk I gave at the KCBS Health Fair in San Francisco on February 2, 2008. My panel’s room was set up for 30 people and 150 showed up. The technicians scrambled to set up speakers in the hallway so the overflowing [...]
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Here, in brief, is what I learned in 2007:
Honor your losses.
Celebrate your blessings.
Give compassion to yourself and others when either of these tasks seems difficult.
Two weeks ago, I shared my grief over my friend Gio’s sudden passing and invited you to honor your grief by sharing your stories. [...]
After writing last week about my friend Gio’s death, I felt that the following e-mail (paraphrased here), which has traveled the world, would be an appropriate follow up that we could all appreciate.
A group of friends got together to have coffee. The host set out the cups and brewed the coffee. Some of the cups [...]
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Recently, Ron Whitney, a life coach and lay counselor at his church, wrote to tell me that he had read my book, Enough Is Enough! He added, “I hope I am not being out of line, but as I read the chapter on forgiveness, I could not help [...]
Dear Jane,
I just broke up with my long-time boyfriend and can’t seem to find any energy for life. How long will it take before I can look forward to enjoying life again?
No matter what the reason for a breakup—the relationship was stale; you outgrew it; it was abusive in some way; you were left—you [...]
Dear Jane,
Everyone talks about thriving. How do I know if I’m thriving? What’s the difference between surviving and thriving?
In both surviving and thriving, we may struggle at times, feel fear of failure or rejection, or worry that we are not worthy of what we long for. So the distinction between surviving and thriving can easily [...]
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Dear Jane,
I want to make some New Year’s resolutions but I don’t want to set myself up for failure, which I’ve done in the past. How can I make sure that I succeed this time?
Most of us use New Year’s resolutions as a way to try to boost [...]
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Dear Jane,
My life coach told me to come up with a list of criteria for what I want in a relationship. What do you think of this idea?
I often suggest this to my clients. As I write about in Enough Is Enough!, we [...]
