Dear Jane,
My husband has recently been diagnosed with cancer and we are all in shock. What do you suggest to help our family–our adult children, their spouses, the grandchildren, and me–make the most of this difficult time and to help him to feel as positive and upbeat as possible?
First of all, every person facing [...]
Dear Jane,
I’m naturally high strung and picky. This can cause problems for me with people who are more easygoing. How do I not get caught up with judging them or even myself? Sometimes I want to avoid people with personalities that are so different from mine. But then I tell myself that this isn’t very [...]
Dear Jane,
I had a contract with someone for my services. Now this person has broken the terms of the contract and decided not to pursue the project. The decision has nothing to do with the quality of my work but is due to her personal circumstances. My preliminary work has taken countless hours and cost [...]
Jane, other people seem to be able to find faith much more easily than I do. I’m of Jewish background but I never believed I was one of the “chosen people” in that I don’t think anyone else is less chosen. I’ve never embraced the idea of a God that watches over me or my [...]
» Read MoreThe other day a friend of mine sent me a story told by Jack Kornfield, a Buddhist teacher and author whom I’ve been fortunate to hear on many occasions. While Jack focuses on forgiveness in this African ritual, I thought about its implications for “believing is seeing,” as I talk about in my book, Enough [...]
» Read MoreYears ago, I had an affair with my friend’s husband. The sexual relationship was short-lived because we both felt terrible. He’s remained faithful to her since and she and I are still close. You seem to recommend telling the truth no matter what. But wouldn’t confessing to her just be hurtful in this case? When [...]
» Read MoreHow can I let go of resentment towards my mother for being thin and lose weight myself?
I wanted to answer this question because, even if weight is not everyone’s issue, resentment and jealousy torture most of us at one time or another.
Jealousy is an indicator that we believe someone else has something that we cannot [...]
We’ve all been reading or at least hearing about The Secret, which teaches how “the laws of attraction” work. But over twenty years ago, my husband, who is an engineer and, therefore, data driven and logical, first introduced me to what I believe to be a bigger (and better) secret. It is what economists call [...]
» Read MoreWhen I am asked to summarize the essence of my book, Enough Is Enough! Stop Enduring and Start Living Your Extraordinary Life, I offer these ten keys. I hope they serve, on a daily basis, to help you create the extraordinary life you deserve.
TEN KEYS TO CREATING YOUR EXTRAORDINARY LIFE
1. Recognize that you are enduring.
Do [...]
Have you ever tried to look better on the outside than you were feeling on the inside? Do you ever abandon your truth to please others? If you weren’t afraid of losing someone’s approval, acceptance, or love, if you didn’t feel that you had to choose between abandoning yourself or being abandoned by someone else, [...]
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